Your explanation of the evolution of the double standard makes sense to me. It can be frustrating and difficult in our modern age to accept how much the different biological natures of men and women still influence relationships and culture. But women do remain the child bearers, and having a child still changes their lives more than it does the father's -- whether or not they remain a couple to raise the child.
A quibble: Instead of calling people "low-oxytocin," it might be more accurate to say that some people release less oxytocin in response to social relationships than others. A woman's brain might not release oxytocin during sex or relationship with her partner, and still release plenty to spark nurturing behavior when she becomes pregnant. Pregnancy is a full-body experience that is more encompassing than a social relationship, and it primes the body and the brain for bonding with the child.
So, I think it's more likely that a man might assume unconsciously that a woman with multiple partners would be less likely to bear his child, rather than that she wouldn't mother his child well.
Another thought: Oxytocin is released in times of physical and emotional intimacy, and especially at orgasm. Perhaps women seek multiple sex partners because none of them is providing the emotional and physical stimulation necessary for her oxytocin release.
Anjuan
· 2 years ago
Thanks for the feedback! I will try to incorporate your feedback into the original post, but I may just let people reference your comment. I really appreciate this!
Jade
· 2 years ago
Wow, this is some detail... I guess I just thought oh well, its mostly alwasys been that way (guys can stray but women cant) so we "inherited" that idea but wow, you do have some good details in here.
Anyway, I didnt know you were a twin?
Anjuan
· 2 years ago
Now you know the thoughts that go through my head during long meetings where people say the same thing 25 different ways . . .
You didn't know I had a twin? Wow, now I think I need to get a "I'm a Twin" T-shirt! I suppose it's something I don't mention to everyone, but I thought I would have mentioned it to you. On the other hand, I guess that's why I added the "About" page on my blog.
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A quibble: Instead of calling people "low-oxytocin," it might be more accurate to say that some people release less oxytocin in response to social relationships than others. A woman's brain might not release oxytocin during sex or relationship with her partner, and still release plenty to spark nurturing behavior when she becomes pregnant. Pregnancy is a full-body experience that is more encompassing than a social relationship, and it primes the body and the brain for bonding with the child.
So, I think it's more likely that a man might assume unconsciously that a woman with multiple partners would be less likely to bear his child, rather than that she wouldn't mother his child well.
Another thought: Oxytocin is released in times of physical and emotional intimacy, and especially at orgasm. Perhaps women seek multiple sex partners because none of them is providing the emotional and physical stimulation necessary for her oxytocin release.
Anyway, I didnt know you were a twin?
You didn't know I had a twin? Wow, now I think I need to get a "I'm a Twin" T-shirt! I suppose it's something I don't mention to everyone, but I thought I would have mentioned it to you. On the other hand, I guess that's why I added the "About" page on my blog.